It Takes an Army

If you saw this “picture perfect” post pop up on my Instagram feed last week, you might’ve made some inaccurate assumptions about the events surrounding how that sweet mama-moment came to be…

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… So I feel there is something that needs to be said:

I’m constantly hearing other moms talk about how NOT glamorous their lives are in contrast to those around them; feeling inadequate and “homely” when comparing themselves to the PERFECTION that they see in other people’s lives. But I tell them this – the truth is, I highly doubt there are many photos being posted on IG that are really and truly as worthy-to-be-envied as they may seem. Behind every gorgeous selfie there are 150 outtakes, behind every home decor staging there’s the removal of everyday messiness, and behind the “mama-blogger-status photo shoots” there are the MELTDOWNS! It takes hard work getting kids to cooperate sometimes, and even more work on top of that to find a day where the sun’s shining, clothes are clean, hair is done, makeup is on, and we actually have a moment to leave the house in between naps! So let’s just cut the crap and get this straight: no one’s life is as flawless as it may appear, nor should any of us ever feel even a twinge of jealousy when scrolling through our social media feeds. Why compare somebody else’s BEST MOMENT (after all, they deemed it post-worthy) to YOUR behind-closed-doors REALITY. Parents: We’re all in this crazy human-growing gig together, and we all know how difficult the unfiltered ins/outs of parenting can be – so let’s encourage one another and be each other’s cheerleaders! Let’s celebrate the wonderful and exciting moments as a team, and be there as a support system when things are going…. well… NOT so wonderful. 2 Corinthians 10:12

Here are a few of my favorite outtakes behind last week’s ATTEMPT at a photo shoot! It took an army of help to get this scattered squad in line, but we pushed through the tears and  e v e n t u a l l y  had a genuinely fun time together. The end result: a precious memory, pictures of my boys wearing their matching “be still and know” tees in honor of brother Cruz, and one really good photo that made the stressful morning all worth while. It’s really one for the wall, you guys! (And by wall I mean, the imaginary family photo wall that I have YET to hang in the stairwell lol #dontjudge)

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Just seconds in, Valor was NOT having it, and Ezekiel was fighting his own tears about taking a break from cousin Jaden…

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Then Z was upset about wearing his coat, and pouting that I put his hair up in a man-bun. (He’s had this adorable haircut for a while now, but refuses to ever wear it up like this!) I just started laughing at their sudden onset uncooperative behavior…

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Ezekiel gave Valor a kiss which is a nonstop occurrence around our house, but of course his response was MORE TEARS haha!

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And now we finally arrive at the moment (20 minutes in), where Valor takes a huge breath – blotchy face n’ all – and decides he’s gonna be happy for no apparent reason 🙂

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^^^ Me saying, “I should have known this day would go like this…….”  ^^^

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Valor is clearly too big for this size 6 mo tee from @bestillclothingcompany, but these tops were the main inspiration behind the photoshoot to begin with, so let’s just take a moment to adore the big baby in a belly shirt!!!

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#MINORadjustments

if only he'd let me put is hair up more often :(
^^^  If only he’d let me put is hair up more often 😦  ^^^

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Look how cute they were being! I love seeing their blossoming relationship unfold.

When Cruz was in the hospital, the owner of Be Still Clothing Company sent me an encouraging note about the faith-filled inspiration behind her brand, along with a thoughtful care package full of shirts and trucker hats for the family – one of which was a sweet little tee for Cruz. At the time, I wholeheartedly believed Cruz would be coming home with us, and I looked forward to the day I’d be dressing him and Ezekiel in their matching clothes. After he passed away, I put Cruz’s shirt away with all his other keepsakes, and thought I’d never want to put it on another child… perhaps I wouldn’t even have another baby??? So, you can only imagine what it felt like to retrieve this smaller-than-remembered-shirt from the attic and do these precious pictures with Valor! Life today often leaves a bittersweet taste in my mouth, but I feel so incredibly thankful and blessed beyond ALL reason that God gave me these two miracles to raise. With a 50% chance of needing a liver transplant, both of these little dudes live to remind me  e v e r y  day of the love my Father has for me ❤  Every morning I wake to find them breathing, I feel grateful.

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^^^ this is one of my favorites ^^^

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style icon tip: sweatpants and pumps for an ironic combo

 

In case you’re wondering which came first – the post title or the army jacket that so fittingly goes with the title – it was definitely the jacket. It’s like, I knew when putting on my outfit of the day that I needed to be up for a challenge 😏😉  (the heels and sore feet however are another story!)

>>> to buy SUPER cute & inspirational clothing for you or your kiddos, click on the image below! <<<

Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

XOXO,

– B

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Psalm 46 (ESV)

10 “Be still, and know that I am God.

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3 thoughts on “It Takes an Army

  1. Firstly, I absolutely love every single picture and your honesty!

    Secondly, a friend of mine and I were talking the other day about this very thing. How behind the ” perfect photos” isn’t perfection. It’s sometimes a mess , it’s sometimes frustrating and chaotic. Someone once asked me how do I get such great pictures of the kids and I quickly told them , you don’t see the literally 27 pictures I took to get that shot! How half the time my 3 year old says no and once to use my phone instead. How we are all so incredibly vulnerable and need God’s constant grace and mercy.

    Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s great that we want to share the “best ” of our day, that’s ok! But we must be willing to admit when days aren’t so good and we can’t want people to have a false sense of our reality. We should want people to know us genuinely 🙂

    I love this post so much!

  2. This is truth!! Enjoyed your take on being a “mommy”!! You have such an incredible gift with words that open up hearts to be healed! I love you!

  3. Hopefully this isn’t a duplicate comment but somehow I was booted off before I clicked “post”?…

    I was in tears reading this post. You are such a great mom and It’s so amazing to see how you have allowed such horrific pain to bring forth such intense BEAUTY. Wow, wow, wow! ❤️💔❤️
    And LOVE all those photos which vividly captured your heart and told the story 😅
    #bittersweetdays
    #hemakesbeautyoutoftheashes
    Mom ❤️💔❤️

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